“Each person’s task in life is to become an increasingly better person.” –Lep Tolstoy
You are kind, and amazing, and inspiring.
But. despite you being all of those things (and more), I don’t think that someone can ever stop improving–whether it be at listening, or not judging others, et certera–there is always room to be better.
That’s not to say that we should constantly judge ourselves for not being perfect in all areas of our lives, or that we should put ourselves down, but you should always try to be better than you are.
Accept that you will make mistakes because plot twist you’re only human. You’re a person who will make bad decisions sometimes, but you’re not a bad person.
So, accept all of that now, and love all of your flaws, and be willing to want to improve without hating yourself for those imperfections.
This doesn’t mean that you have to make these big, life-altering decisions all of the time. Working to become a better person can be as small as smiling and making eye contact with your server at a restaurant.
Improving can mean taking a look at your work life, and realizing that if you want to make it to where you want to be, you have to work harder, so you do just that.
It’s telling yourself that you’re awesome after you shower and see your reflection on the steam-filled mirror. Because becoming a better person can mean learning to love yourself.
It can mean doing a million and one things differently, or adding something to your daily schedule.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to improve who you are, but promise me that you’ll do it for YOU.
Don’t do it because someone thinks you should change.
If someone calls you a rude person, don’t change to satisfy them. Improve because you took their words into consideration, realized that what they said maybe had some truth, and now you want to be better. FOR YOU.
On the flip side, don’t be afraid to take big actions either.
Spend those $3,000 dollars on the Tony Robbings seminar if you think that it’ll change your life. Become a Big Brother or Big Sister Big Sisters Big Brother of America.
Do these things not to prove something to someone, but to prove something to yourself.
Say, “I want to become better than who I am, so I’m doing it for me.” Or “So it’ll to leave a mark on someone’s life.” (Even if that life is your own.)
Never believe that you are the best you’re ever going to be and look for ways to be better.
Don’t forget to love yourself along the way.