Positivity is a topic that everybody talks about. Everyone wants to be positive.
That’s really great, but before you can jump into that, it’s important to know what positivity really means because there are a lot of myths surrounding it.
These myths are important to break because if you don’t know what they are, then they’re going to prevent you from becoming the positive person that you want to become.
We’re going to outline it a little bit. First, I want to know what you think of when you think of a positive person.
WHAT EVERYONE MAKES OUT AN OPTIMIST TO BE:
I’ll bet that you see someone who’s always shining bright like the sun. No matter what situation they’re in, they can always find the light in the dark.
You’re a little jealous because why couldn’t you have been born a positive person? Plus, they have it easier! They can be positive more often because they barely have any problems. They don’t have to constantly search for the light at the end of the tunnel. Not like you.
Here’s a fact: Nothing in that sentence is true. We’re going to bust those myths right now.
1. THEY’RE NOT ALWAYS POSITIVE
Positive people aren’t always happy go luck rays of fucking sunshine, as the shirts say. They’re not optimists 100% of the time.
Sometimes they’re negative, hopeless, and they even want to give up when things get too tough. Shocking, I know!
Bad things will happen to them, and they won’t always want to find the positive side. Maybe they’ll try to find the good side of a shit situation, but they won’t find it because they’re too low at that moment.
Maybe you’re thinking, if I’m not always going to be positive, then what’s the point in trying? Well, optimists may not always be positive, but they’re positive a hell of a lot more often than negative people.
They’re happy because overall, they see the good side to a bad thing more often. That, I can promise you, counts for something.
They’re not perfect, and they can’t always find the positive side. Neither will you. You will not always be positive, but you’ll try more often, and if you try more often, you’ll succeed more.
2. OPTIMISTS ARE NOT BORN OPTIMISTS
Imagineering Now tells us that, “Studies seem to indicate that optimism is only slightly influenced by genetics—20% at best.”
Read that again—slightly influenced and 20% at best.
Positive people aren’t born with a positivity gene. They learned how to be positive. They developed the habit to be positive.
People envy optimists because they think that that mindset is natural, so they don’t struggle. It’s not true!
Bust this myth fast because envy isn’t a positive feeling. Envy is poison, and it’s what stops you from taking action. It’s hard to be a positive person when you’re too focused on other people.
Optimists aren’t born looking at the bright side, they learned to be positive. You can learn, too! You too can develop that habit. It might take you a while to be able to really catch your negative thoughts and turn them into something positive, but it’s all about practice.
3. THEY DON’T HAVE IT EASIER
Positive people have problems, too. They don’t have a better life than you. Even if they’re rich and living in a great house, they have issues of their own, just like you.
They didn’t get lucky to never have problems which is why it’s easy for them to be optimists.
The difference between an optimist and a pessimist is that an optimist will try to find a positive, a lesson, or a message—something to take with them.
Optimists and pessimists can both have the exact same lives, but the pessimist will always see the worst in any problem or situation that they encounter.
It’s all about your point of view on life. Both optimists and pessimists can run out of money, lose a business, or can run out of gas on the freeway. It’s the reaction that defines you.
Positive people don’t have it easier, they’ve just worked on their mentality to the point where it looks like nothing is a problem. Stop envying people, it’s a waste of time. Just learn to be positive!
PRO TIP: HOW TO BE POSITIVE
Make it a habit to evaluate what you’re thinking. If you catch yourself thinking something negative, try to flip the thought. Then, think the complete opposite or just eradicate it completely.
It’s not easy to catch what you’re thinking, so set an alarm. Set 5 alarms throughout different times of the day, and call it “What are you thinking?” This will remind you to catch your thoughts, and do what we talked about above.
If you have any other myths, let me know in the comments down below! We’ll bust them together.