Hey guys! My name’s Itxy, and today we’re going to talk about the one thing that will always help you find the bright side.
By the end of this video you’ll have one method that will help you become a more positive person.
It’s not easy to be a positive person… only it is.
WHY IT’S HARD IN THE BEGINNING TO BECOME A POSITIVE PERSON
The reason I say it’s not easy is because we’re accustomed to thinking negatively.
If something bad happens, we make it even worse by thinking bad things about it.
For example, if you took a test, and you failed that test, your mind automatically goes deeper, and you start thinking, Because I failed this test, now my grade is going to drop. Then you go even further and think, Because my grade is going to drop, I’m going to have to retake this class next year.
Our minds go down this dark hole once something bad happens, and it goes down that hole incredibly fast.
The thing is that most of the time we don’t even realize this is happening. Something bad happens, and we make it even worse in our minds, then next thing you know, you’re back in bed watching Orange is the New Black for hours. And you’re doing this because you’re trying to escape the bad thing.
We’ve made negative thinking a habit.
The way that you might bite your nails when you’re nervous or the way someone might reach for a cigarette when they’re feeling anxious, we’ve turned negative thinking into a habit.
We think negatively [instead of positively] when something bad happens, that’s the habit.
HOW TO REPLACE A BAD HABIT
As I’m sure you’ve heard, the best way to get rid of a bad habit isn’t necessarily to stop the habit, but to replace it with a new one.
So, when I say that it’s not easy to become a positive person it’s because it’s hard to replace a habit. If you have a bad habit of biting your nails, it’s hard to stop, right?
Negative thinking is exactly like that, it’s hard to replace it because it’s a bad habit, but the actual method to replace it is simple. That’s why I said it’s hard, but not really.
Here’s the thing: negative thinking will not disappear. It’s always there, and it’s going to come up every now and then, but while negative thinking is always going to be there, now you’re going to know how to stop it.
WHAT YOU WILL KNOW HOW TO DO
We’re going to make it so that when something bad happens and you start thinking negatively, you’ll be able to stop those thoughts and replace them with something positive.
You learn how to think positively the way that you change other habits. Like I said, you’re not going to stop thinking negatively, I just want to get that clear.
Negative thinking isn’t something that just goes away, but it is something that you can replace.
The replacement obviously being positive thinking.
The method that I learned, and the method that I’m going to teach you right now, is a method that hasn’t failed me. It actually works, and I genuinely love it.
First I want you to know (before your call me crazy) that the method is very simple, but it’s effective. So bear with me even though you’ll probably think, That’s it? Because yes you’re going to say that, but I promise you it works!
HOW TO REPLACE NEGATIVE THINKING WITH POSITIVE THINKING
Step 1: Think about what you’re thinking
Step 2: Catch the negative thought
Step 3: Replace it with the opposite AKA the positive thought
That’s it. Those are the steps!
So you’re probably thinking if the method is so simple, why is learning to become a positive person so hard?
IF IT’S THAT EASY, WHY IS IT SO HARD?
Because of this: Think back to a situation when something bad happened to you. You started thinking badly about it, and you started going down this dark hole that kept getting deeper and deeper. You started thinking negative thought after negative thought, and it was hard to stop, right?
That’s why we escape. That’s when we’ll finally lose ourselves in a movie or in a book or a show, or why some people will lose themselves in drugs and drinking.
Because life got hard and the negative thinking amplified it, and made it huge. It seemed like it was too big and too scary to face. So, instead of facing it, they decided to get away.
Sometimes things really do get too hard, and we do need to escape—I’m not saying that escaping is bad because sometimes that’s part of a healing process—but most of the time we end up exaggerating things.
We make things seem like they’re harder than they actually are.
Something bad can happen, and our negative thinking will make it seem 10x worse when in reality it’s a small problem that we’re capable of dealing with.
Anyway, the thing that would stop us from falling into those holes deeper and deeper is catching our thoughts.
HOW TO PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT’S GOING THROUGH YOUR MIND
How often do you do that? How often are you thinking about what you’re thinking about?
That’s the first step—to pay attention to what you’re thinking. It’s to just stop in the middle of the day, and think: what’s going on in my mind? What am I thinking right now? Is it something negative?
In order to practice catching what you’re thinking, a good method that a lot of people recommend, and that I did, is to:
- Set up at least 3 alarms throughout the day
- at anytime that you want
- When those alarms ring, stop everything you’re doing
- Think about what’s running through your mind
- If it’s a negative thought, stop it
- Replace it with the opposite (a positive thought)
“I’m never going to get a job at this rate.” —> “There are opportunities all around me, and I am open to them. I am grateful for the perfect job that’s waiting out there for me.”
“I’m going to fuck up this video.” —> “I’m smart and capable, and what I say matters.”
- Think about what’s running through your mind
- Catch a negative thought
- Replace it with the opposite.
IT’S EASY TO DO, AND EASY NOT TO DO
Here’s another thing. This exercise is easy and simple, right? Just 3 steps!
The problem is that when things are simple, it’s very easy to not do them because one small thought won’t make a difference, right?
Doing this exercise is practice. You can turn off the 3 alarms on your first day and not do the exercise, and it won’t make a difference in your life.
But if you turn off the alarms every single day, and you don’t do the exercises, then in 3 months you’re not going to see any change because you didn’t do anything!
Maybe it doesn’t matter if you skip a day or skip one alarm, but eventually things add up. Or in this case, nothing adds up because you’re not doing anything, so there’s no change.
IF YOU WANT TO BE A POSITIVE THINKING, YOU HAVE TO PRACTICE EVERY DAY
It’s only if you’re applying this information that you’re going to finally see that you‘re becoming a positive thinker.
I’m proof that this method works. Like I said in the beginning, I’m not going to share with you something that I haven’t tried or something that I have tried but didn’t work for me.
I’ve been doing this every single day for about a year now, and I don’t need even alarms anymore.
Now when I‘m thinking something negative, and I find myself going deeper into that hole, I can automatically think, Itxy, no… you’re making things worse than they actually are.
Now I can just catch my thoughts, and I can stop them. Then, I can start thinking something positive. It feels 10x better than falling into that deep hole and ending up in bed, reading books to escape.
But it didn’t just happen out of nowhere. I didn’t wake up one day deciding that I was going to be a positive thinker, and then all of a sudden I was. It took me months to get this down, but I practiced every single day, so now it’s a habit.
I havent’ stopped thinking negatively, but now I’m able to catch myself and replace it with something positive.
Do the work, and you’ll see the results.
That’s how you learn how to be a positive thinker!
That said, that’s the end of this video. [read: article] If you’re going to actually apply these steps and use them, let me know down below with a smile!