“Slow down. Calm down. Don’t worry. Don’t hurry. Trust the proccess.” — Alexandra Stoddard
I want to add one more sentence to that quote. Don’t just trust the process—love the proccess.
We’re all pretty impatient people, our generation even more so. Is that our faults? No. Not when we have the world at our fingertips. We can unlock our devices and buy things just with our fingerprints, and we message someone halfway across the world in a second.
The thing is impatience will get you nowhere.
Literally. (If you’re impatient, you’ll probably end up quitting.)
TRUST & LOVE THE PROCESS
The process to reaching a goal—reaching a certain amount of followers, selling a number of courses or self-published books, whatever it is—should be the best part.
You should wake up excited to work, maybe even more than you are for actually reaching your goal.
You can’t not enjoy the process. Not when it’s basically 99% of your time around what you’re doing. Reaching your goals is fun and something to be celebrated, but if you’re not enjoying the process, then what’s the point?
Fall in love with the work, the grind, the hustle, the fucking up, and the networking. Love making the videos and coming up with new ideas and writing for 4 hours straight.
Stop looking at where you are now and where you want to be unless you’re reviewing your goals for motivating reasons. If you’re doing it and it’s only bringing you down, then stop looking at it and focus on the work that you love!
“When you’re so fixated on the results, then when you’re not seeing the result fast enough, then you get discouraged, or you’re going to give up, or you’re going to try something new.” —Stefan James
Don’t focus on the views or followers or any kind of evidence that shows that people know you! Focus on the work, love the process, and the results will come.
HONOR THE PRESENT
It’s okay to focus on the past to remember lessons that you’ve learned along the way, and it’s okay to review your goals, but nothing is more powerful than focusing on the present. Absorb yourself in your work and give it the attention that it deserves.
When you don’t love the proccess, you’re not honoring and respecting the present.
You have to be proud of every step you take instead of comparing yourself to what you’re not yet because if you do that constantly, you won’t ever be happy.
Every day be thankful that you have another chance to live and honor that by being present, by loving the process.
And frankly, life is just more fun when you’re loving the process. When you get rid of the worry and stress and you calm the fuck down, life is easier. You don’t have to worry about anything else except the things you’re doing.
DON’T BE TOO ATTACHED TO THE OUTCOME
You never know where you might end up if you just work with what’s in front of you. You could start out by writing a book, but then you decide that it would be better as an online course.
If you’re too attached to what you first had in mind, then you will have missed the chance to do something that was probably going to end up being greater, not only for you, but for whoever you made it for.
“Most of your life is the journey, the arriving is relatively rare.” —Eckhart Tolle
You could have a different opportunity pop up, but if you’re too absorbed with where you wanted to go in the first place, then you’ll miss it.
Life isn’t just a straight line. You don’t make a goal and reach it just by doing everything you planned. You’re going to fuck up along the way and some things just won’t go the way you wanted them to.
Your goals have to be adjustable, too.
Don’t do it for the results, do it because it feels good, because it makes you happy. Focus on adding value to not only others, but to yourself.
Do it for the happiness and because you love what you do. Don’t complicate it.
ENJOY WHAT YOU’VE DONE WITHOUT WORRYING ABOUT WHAT’LL HAPPEN NEXT
What happens if you don’t reach your goal?
As long as you had fun, who cares? I’m serious. Life doesn’t have to constantly be about reaching goals, like crossing off some to-do list. Life can be about just having fun, about just doing.
“I don’t believe in failure. It is not failure if you enjoyed the process.” —Oprah Winfrey
As Oprah said (and you can’t disagree with Oprah) you didn’t even fail, so don’t think of it as that. Just think of it as, “I didn’t reach this goal. The good thing is that now I can make a new one. I’m grateful for everything I learned during this process and for the fun I had.”
It’s a mentality shift.
There’s only one thing left to say:
Just freaking love the process.
Okay two . . .
Leave me a comment below: What are your thoughts on enjoying the process? Any struggles?