Hey guys, I’m Itxy, and today we’re talking about how you can be a nicer and more understanding person.
If you’re watching this it’s because you want to be a better person in general, and by the end of this, by just following one of these steps, you should be on your way to that.
1. LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLE’S POINT OF VIEWS
This is a great way to be kind because it shows that you’re open to listening to other people’s perspective without judging them.
This portrays respect for what they think and what they feel, and so the person that you’re talking to feels that respect because they may not be used to not getting judge for what they have to say.
When they don’t get any judgement from you, they think, “Hey, this person’s not that bad!” You’re gaining trust.
You may not agree with what they have to say, but be open anyway. If someone says something and you feel like you have to defend yourself or stand up for yourself, you can do that. Just make sure that you’re doing it respectfully.
Be open to listening to what others have to say about anything!
2. LISTEN AND BE PRESENT
Listening, obviously, is a great way to show that you’re a nice person. I don’t always listen, you know? Sometimes, I’ll blank out, and I know it’s rude. (I’m working on it, I wanted to include it because I wanted. you to be aware, too!)
Other people will be on their phones while someone is speaking to them! Even if you are listening while you’re on your phone, it’s just rude. The best way to show that you’re listening and being present is by making eye contact and showing a reaction when it’s necessary—that’s either nodding, or shaking your head, or mhm-ing.
Whatever you do, just make sure that you’re making them feel worthy when they’re talking to you.
3. BE MORE RELIABLE
Don’t flake out on people. Don’t cancel last minute unless you have a really good reason, and don’t show up late.
If you want to be more respectful, and if you want to be looked at as a nice person, then you have to be respectful of people’s time. If they’re taking time out of their day in order to see you, then the least you can do is show up on time.
And if you’re going to be late, at least send a text! Don’t just show up and apologize, give them a heads up!
Be someone that your friends and family can trust, someone that they can depend on.
4. HAVE EMPATHY, NOT PITY
No body likes being pitied AKA sympathized because it’s condescending. It doesn’t make the other person feel good when you’re pitying them.
Pity means that you’re acknowledging their pain, but you’re not really showing that you understand why they feel that way. So you’re saying, “Oh, that sucks.” But maybe in you’re head you’re thinking, “This person is making a big deal.”
So, don’t pity people—empathize with them.
Empathy makes the other person feel understood because you’re saying (with facial expressions) I understand why you feel this way. I’m sorry, and I understand.
You’re connecting with them instead of belittling them!
5. IF YOU DO SOMETHING WRONG, APOLOGIZE
Push your pride away!
Would you rather have a fight with a friend hurt for more than a couple hours or would you rather just fix the mistake and apologize right away and avoid all the shit feelings?
Life’s too short to be stopped by your pride. If you want to be a better person, and if you want to be nicer, then be the bigger person and apologize first even if you’re not wrong and even if you really hate it! Be the first person to apologize.
Thanks reading! Let me know in the comments what you’re going to be working on! (I’m working on becoming a better, more present listener!)