More times than we wish, we are going to fail. We will take risks and try new things, but they won’t go the way we planned. You will make progress and then it just gets erased.
You won’t know when any of these events will happen. Events you didn’t plan for will occur and there’s nothing you can do about it.
I’m telling you, but you already know this information. So, knowing this, why is it that when bad unexpected things happen we react in a negative way? We get furious and angry because something we planned went the opposite direction we expected it to take.
Let me remind you of something you also know: reacting angrily will do nothing to fix the mistake. Right? Then, why get mad?
When an event like this pops up, go ahead and feel the sadness that comes with it if you want. Get pissed off. There is nothing wrong with these emotions at all.
However, you can only let these feeling take over for 1 minute and then move the fuck on. Cry if you want, but then remember once again that what’s happened has already happened and you can’t go to the past and change something no matter how badly you want to.
You can, however, focus on the future.
Realize your mistake and make a mental note to simply never do it again. Learn from it and move on with your life. You’ll feel regret for not having done something else, but the regret is just as pointless as the anger because, like I said, you can’t fix the past.
You can only create your future.
Let me share with you the story of why I’m writing this right now.
In December of 2016, I decided that I would write some blog posts for the next year for the first 4-5 months. I made this decision because I would normally write my content a day before or even the day that I had decided to upload a post. I’d stress out because I wanted to do it by a certain time and I would rush myself.
I didn’t want to feel like that again, so I stopped procrastinating and just wrote my articles. I wrote 6 articles that I thought were some of my best because I was able to take my time with them and I was honestly really proud of myself. Besides writing them, I also scheduled them to be uploaded automatically in the next 3 months.
Throughout December, I also went back to all of my already uploaded posts and I edited them all because I had improved as a writer and I wanted to make sure they were good. They weren’t. I mean the content was, but the style wasn’t. So, I edited all of them, which took me a long time. Once again, I was proud and I believed that the articles were now worth reading.
Now, before this current website, it looked different. My dad redesigned it for me and gave it an upgrade. What my dad and I didn’t know was that once we upgraded the website, my scheduled posts (and a few other drafts I had) would all be deleted. My older posts also went back to how they looked before I edited them. To make it worse, my dumbass didn’t save copies of them anywhere else.
I didn’t have any backups whatsoever. I was beyond angry. All the work and progress that I had made in December was gone and I couldn’t do anything to get it back. I don’t think I’ve ever felt angrier than that I night, I even cried out of anger. I wasn’t sad, I was angry as shit.
Despite my anger, I realized that there was nothing that could be done. I couldn’t hop into a time machine and copy my articles onto Google docs. So, a good 10 minutes later and I began writing this. It’s been a month since this happened and I’m just finishing this article.
I had to start anew so I couldn’t waste time yelling at the Universe, right? It’s not easy to not letting anger get the best of you. I may have gotten over it in 10 minutes, but the next day when I went back to re-edit my old articles again, I saw how much I needed to do, got angry, and just did something else instead. It takes a lot of practice.
I may not be there just yet, but I know I’ve improved. If I get angry, I choose to let it go because there’s nothing I could possibly do. I wasn’t able to do that before and now I can do it with a lot of different situations. Not all of them of course, but like I said, I’ve improved.
Even though that whole mess got me beyond angry, I truly believe that it happened to me for a reason. Months before, my dad had told me to copy what I wrote onto another platform, but I just ignored it.
So, I learned a lesson. ALWAYS HAVE BACKUPS. Even if you’re 110% that nothing will happen.
Next time you get angry because something didn’t go the way that you wanted it to happen, think back and find a lesson. Why did things take an unexpected turn? Is it worth beating yourself up over it? Are you going to remain angry and blame everyone else or will you take it as a lesson that needs to be learned to not make that mistake again?
WHAT TO DO WHEN THINGS DON’T GO AS PLANNED RE-CAP:
- Get angry for a couple of minutes
- Let go of the emotion
- Realize that there’s nothing you can do but focus on the future
- Find a lesson
- Remember the mistake and lesson
- Move on