Hey, guys, my name’s Itxy. Welcome to my channel. In today’s video, I’m going to tell you how you can trick yourself into loving you.
You’re probably asking how you can trick yourself into loving you and I literally mean trick yourself into loving you.
Obviously, your mind is made up of a shitload of different parts, but you have your conscious mind, and you have your subconscious mind.
Your conscious mind is exactly that—conscious. Your subconscious mind believes everything that you feed your conscious mind.
Your subconscious mind believes everything you say because it trusts and believes you because it’s like a 4-year-old; everything you say will be filed away and it’ll remember it.
Because your subconscious mind believes everything you say, a lot of the time we’re living our lives based on other people’s opinions, but we’ll get back to that later.
Even though what we see, hear, and think can be stored involuntarily, it can also be stored voluntarily.
You decide what you want your subconscious to believe.
Everything you believe becomes true, so if you take a phrase and you repeat to yourself enough times for a long while, eventually you’re going to start to believe it because even though you do have control over your subconscious mind, you don’t.
You can choose what you want your subconscious mind to believe, but the things that you don’t choose, it has no choice but to believe it.
Which I know that that can be bad, but it’s also good because, like I said, you can choose what you want to believe.
“Man is made or unmade by himself.” —James Allen, As a Man Thinketh
That basically means that even though our parents and society, they do shape us into who we are, ultimately we have control of our lives.
Let’s dig into this further.
Self-love applies to all things going on inside as much as the physical stuff. However, in this video, I’m going to give you an example according to your physical being.
Let’s that you’re insecure because you don’t have the body you want because you’re not thin enough or because you don’t have a six-pack.
Obviously, you didn’t mean to dislike your body. Nobody wants to dislike their body, but that’s just how it turned out to be. And you know why.
Because when we’re waiting in check-out lines, there are magazines there with beautiful girls and beautiful guys, almost completely naked, showing their abs, and when you see stuff like that your mind automatically goes to “Why don’t I look like that?” or “My body doesn’t look like that.”
When you hear that, there’s a smaller voice saying, “Because there’s no one who looks like me on the cover of that magazine or on social media, then I’m not pretty.”
Now, that’s absolutely fucking far from the truth because all body types are beautiful, but because you saw those pictures so many times and those thoughts went through your head, then eventually you started to believe them to the point where every time you looked in the mirror you were thinking that you were ugly.
But, like I said, you made yourself believe these negative things, so you can make yourself believe the positive ones.
Before I continue, I do want to say that you shouldn’t blame yourself because you made yourself believe these things. Most of the time it’s done unconsciously.
It’s not like you looked at those magazine covers and thought, “Wow, I’m ugly,” straight away. It’s just how it turned out to be.
So, don’t blame yourself at all. Just be glad that you’re watching this and that you caught something that you didn’t like. Which brings me to my first point on how you can trick yourself into loving you.
1. BECOME AWARE
Whenever you look in the mirror, what are your thoughts about yourself? What do you think when you’re thinking about you? What goes through your mind when you see someone that’s “prettier” than you or “more buff” than you? Listen to all of your I thoughts.
Like, “I am not intelligent,” “I am ugly,” and all of those shitty thoughts.
2. WRITE DOWN THOSE THOUGHTS
Write down the negative belief you have, then cross it out and replace it with something positive.
And when I say write it down, I do mean write it down, don’t just think it because there’s a lot of power in writing things out.
These negative things that you think about yourself are called negative beliefs.
So, you’re going to write down the negative belief, cross it out, and replace it with something positive.
Let me give you an example.
Let’s say that one of your thoughts is, “I’m ugly and unworthy.” You’re going to replace that with, “I am beautiful, and I love myself.”
Another example is, “I am an incompetent fool.” You’re going to switch that to, “I am smart and capable.”
These positive things that you say about yourself are called affirmations. After you write down these affirmations…
3. YOU HAVE TO SPEAK THEM OUT LOUD
If you write down the affirmations on a sticky note, in a journal, or something, read them whenever you wake up and before you go to bed.
Also, think about them throughout the day whenever you can, like when you’re waiting in line to buy a movie ticket or whatever, just have them going through your mind.
I know that this all sounds really stupid and too easy, but it’s just how it works.
Like, if you got yourself into this whole mess by saying all of these negative things about yourself, then it’s exactly how you’re going to get yourself out.
So, write down what you need to hear, and say it out loud as often as you can.
But, there are 3 more things you need to do in order for these things to work–well, two-ish.
1. WHEN SPEAKING AFFIRMATIONS, SPEAK WITH EMOTION
Napoleon Hill in his book Think and Grow Rich, named 7 negative and positive emotions. I’m not going to name all of them, but if you’re going to say an affirmation like I love you when you look at yourself in the mirror, then you have to say it with hope, love, desire, enthusiasm, and/or faith—as much faith as you can possibly muster!
The reason I say this is because if you’re not saying things with emotion, then it’s pretty useless, and it doesn’t work.
“The more emotion you feel around what you’re saying, the more power it will bring about positive change.” —Jen Sincero, You Are a Badass
Just as you should say these positive affirmations with positive emotions, you should avoid the negative ones.
This includes emotions like fear, jealousy, greed, or hatred.
There needs to be positive emotion behind your words because we don’t really respond well to negative emotion.
For example, if I were to say, again, I love you to myself, but I felt fear—a negative emotion—creeping up, then the affirmation wouldn’t work because I don’t have the faith necessary to believe that what I’m doing will actually work.
So, another thing with the emotion is really getting you in that state. So, a good exercise is closing your eyes and seeing yourself being told by your best friend, “You look super smart,” or “You look beautiful today,” or things that will make you feel really happy or put a smile on your face because feeling that emotion is KEY.
2. YOU NEED TO BE PERSISTENT
You need to make saying these affirmations a habit because you’re not going to see or feel a difference after a week, after two weeks even.
You have to say it every single day and persist because in the beginning it’s going to feel like a lie and these words are going to feel useless because you’re so accustomed to the lie.
Yes, they’re lies, by the way. All of these affirmations are bringing you back to the truth.
So, no matter what, you have to keep going no matter how unnecessary and useless it may seem.
You have to decide if it’s worth the effort, but in reality, what’s the harm?
What’s it wasting? Like, 2 seconds of your day? Might as well try it!
Thanks for watching!