Hey guys! My name’s Itxy, and today we’re going to talk about how you can motivate and encourage others.
By the end of this video, you will be the friend or family member that people go to when they want someone who will lift them up and encourage them.
People love to know that they have a friend that they can always depend on to give them advice. People also love the friend that will always give them “permission” to do something risky.
By a a risk, I don’t mean a dumb dare that’ll get someone killed, I mean doing something that will make them happy even if they’re afraid. Or something like dropping out of college to go after their singing career.
People love to know that they have someone who believes in them, who will always have their back, and not judge them for the choices that they’re making.
You can be that person. You can be the person who can motivate others and encourage them to do the things that make them happy, even if they’re crazy.
The reason you’re watching this is because you want to be that person, but you don’t know how. So, I’m going to give you the answer to “How the hell do I do that?” with 3 steps.
Comment down below if you’re excited to get into these tips!
TIP #1: LISTEN FIRST
This may seem like a ridiculous tip because obviously you need to listen, but before you can say Yes, do it! you need to hear exactly what the person wants to do.
Don’t jump in and say, “Hey, before you say anything, I think you should do it. Life is too short.”
Because the truth is that you don’t know what this person is thinking of doing. They could be thinking of quitting their dream job that they fought so hard for simply because they had a stressful day.
So make sure that you’re listening first. Make sure that what they’re saying isn’t, to put it bluntly, dumb as fuck.
TIP #2: ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS
Once again, before you can actually motivate someone, first you have to ask the right questions to find out if this person is being serious.
The reason you need to find out if someone is serious is because you don’t want this person to regret their choice. They could get into this idea because they’re seeking a quick fix of happiness or money, so when they start they’re journey, they’re not going to enjoy it. When things get tough, they’ll get stressed, they’ll hate it, and they’re regret it. They won’t enjoy it all.
Be sure that THEY want to go through with their idea in the first place.
QUESTIONS YOU CAN ASK
1) Is this something you really want to do?
2) Will you regret it if you don’t?
3) Are you willing to put in the work?
4) How bad do you want it?
5) Is it worth, you know, whatever the sacrifice is?
6) How will you feel if you don’t do it?
These are just examples, but I’m sure that you can come up with some of your own. Just say whatever feels right and ask whatever feels right in that moment.
Asking these questions allows you to find out how serious they are, but it also allows them to figure things out for themselves.
You’re asking them questions that they haven’t thought of that they need to answer for themselves. This helps them make the decision.
Sometimes just being a catalyst to helping someone figure things out is great. You’re still helping, just not necessarily directly.
After these two things, this person may still be seeking permission from you.
(Really quick, let me explain. When I say they’re seeking “permission” from you, I’m not saying that you get to say yes do it, so they do it. They’re just trying to make sure that someone is going to be there for them.
That’s what this whole thing is about. It’s about making someone realize that other people have done what they want to do, so why can’t they do it, too?
TIP #3: ACTUALLY DO THE MOTIVATING
This is where you give the person the “permission” they’re seeking
When you’re saying what needs to be said, which we’ll talk about in a little bit, you need to say it in a soft way but also in a hard way. I know this is a phrase that completely contradicts itself, but let me explain.
Your words need to be nice and uplifting, but your tone needs to be serious because this is a serious thing. I don’t mean in a stoic manner, I just mean that you need to sound for real. Don’t make jokes out of it, and don’t be sarcastic.
Also, get excited about it because then they’ll get excited, too! This is important because say that you were having a stressful day. If someone
were to give you good news with an excited tone, you’d feel that excitement. Your stress would melt away.
So, if you’re excited and that excitement reaches the person that you’re speaking to, then it’s going to not only make them feel excited, but it’s also going to melt away any of the doubt and fears that they’re having.
They’ll really want to go for it after seeing you get excited for them. So, show the excitement, and say the right phrases in an uplifting manner but in a serious tone.
SOME PHRASES YOU CAN SAY:
- “I think you should do this. You don’t want to regret not taking the chance.”
- “If it’s something that you love, then go for it.”
- “What’s the worst that can happen? Is it really bad?”
- “Do it, dude. If it’s going to make you happy, then fuck everything else.”
- “Just do it. Don’t think about it anymore. You clearly want it, so just go for it.”
- “I think this sounds like a great idea, and you’re obviously excited, so don’t let anything stop you.”
- “It’s a risk worth taking. You could change the world!”
So those are a few phrases that you can say. You can also add something like:
- “If you’re worried what your family will say, don’t worry I’ll be here for you.”
- “I believe in you.”
- “I’ll be with you every single step of the way.”
Just remind them that you’re there for them.
Those are just examples, but you can throw in whatever you want. Just see what the other person needs to hear and then say that.
I promise, you’ll know exactly what to say.
Comment “Can’t wait to help people” down below if you’ll be using this advice. Thanks for watching [read: reading]. I’ll see you next week. Bye!