Have you ever watched movies that make you go insane? Movies like Inception? Where you just end up mind-fucked?
If you haven’t watched Inception, all you need to know is that it’s a movie that does exactly that. It messes with you and makes you confused because it’s a concept that your mind can’t comprehend. I said to myself, “Hey, movies aren’t the only things that do that…unfortunately.”
So, here I am, as I’ve decided that I’m going to share a few things that you should avoid/stop doing that may be detrimental to you, your spiritual, mental, and emotional health. Let’s get started, yeah?
1) AVOID THE PEOPLE THAT MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE SHIT
There are people in our lives that are toxic. These people discourage, gossip too much, or just plain hurt you. Yet, we keep them around. I know that you think that if you let these people go, you won’t have anyone else.
I’d rather be friendless and feel good about myself then have people putting me down and making me feel like I can’t accomplish anything. Even then, I’m sure you have at least that one friend you talk to who is actually kind.
Some people might not even do or say anything directly to you, but they give out bad vibes. If you just don’t feel good around them, then you don’t have to stick around. Make new friends who really support you and will be there when you need them.
Don’t hang out with those people that you give your all to, then when it comes to your problems or your achievements they’re not there to help or to celebrate.
“Don’t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out!” – Robert Tew
2) STAYING IN TOO MUCH
You shouldn’t stay cooped in for too long! Take a walk in a park and get some fresh air, it’ll make you feel good instantly to just enjoy the nature that surrounds you.
You’ll go crazy if you’re working on something and don’t take a break to go outside for at least 10 minutes. Plus, you’ll feel refreshed after and work even better than you were before.
Also, while breaks outside are great, you should also go out with friends or with your family and have fun. Go bowling, to a museum, to your local amusement park, or go to freaking Target for all I care. Just go out and enjoy yourself. You deserve to love life.
3) STOP PUTTING YOURSELF DOWN
I know you’re awesome. You know you’re awesome. So…why do you discourage yourself?
Why do you tell yourself that you won’t be able to make it big in the music industry or become one of the greatest architects of your generation? Always believe in your actions despite how insane and different they may seem.
Allow yourself to let the love in. Appreciate every aspect of who you are instead telling yourself that you’re not worthy enough for happiness and all the good stuff in life.
Don’t make self-deprecating jokes. Don’t make people laugh by insulting yourself. You’ll feel free after you’ve started to respect yourself more. Plus, you simply don’t deserve it. You shouldn’t be hating on such a wonderful person who I’m sure will do great things with their life. You are who you are for a pivotal reason, don’t bring yourself down because YOU MEAN SOMETHING TO THE WORLD.
4) DON’T BE A PESSIMIST
Stop looking at all the bad side of things. Being negative will just make you feel like the world around you is crumbling instead of looking at the things that are being beautifully built. There are great things happening all around you.
When there’s a bad situation you’re going through, such as you getting fired, for example, go ahead and get angry. Let it all out in the span of 5 minutes, punch something (something soft, though, don’t hurt yourself). Then after that time is up, accept that it’s happened and let it go.
Don’t start thinking that you did something wrong. Don’t focus on the fact that you lost the job. Shift your focus on finding a new one. Look at the bright side. There are more jobs out there available.
Focusing on great things in life and being positive will make you feel unconquerable. It’ll help you realize that you can overcome any situation thrown your way because you’ll know how to get out of it quicker because you’re not wasting time thinking about the bad possibilities.
5) DON’T DO THE THINGS YOU DON’T FEEL LIKE DOING
Why would you waste time doing shit you don’t like? Why spend the time torturing yourself by not doing what you really want to do?
Life’s all about being fucking ecstatic. Not about hating your 9-5 job, not about choosing a career you don’t even like, not about pretending to be someone you’re not.
Choose to acknowledge the things that bring you joy. Choose art school even though your parents want you in Stanford because it’s what you enjoy, and in your life, you matter. No one gets to make decisions for your life, you’re the one in freaking charge of your happiness, so act like it and own it.
Be rebellious. Take control.
Slouching makes it seem as though you’re not self-assured. Start standing up and sitting up straight! It’ll make you feel good, like, “yeah look at me with my head high and my shoulders back, I’m fucking confident.”
I’m not getting into the medical side of this cause that’s not me. I’m just here to tell you that it’ll make you feel good! I know it does, I do it all the time and I feel like a badass like no one can put a finger on me and hurt me.
7) MULTITASKING IS A BAD IDEA
Multitasking sucks. You may think that it saves time, but that’s false. You actually take longer focusing on two things at once. Just choose one task to put all your attention on. Also, I’m not talking about the multi-tasking that doesn’t require any thinking like walking and chewing gum at the same time (unless you’re London from The Suite Life of Zack & Cody and you can’t do both at once).
According to Douglas Merill’s article, “Why Multitasking Doesn’t Work,” your brain can’t process 2 streams of information at once, therefore making it impossible for it to become a short-term memory. A Short-term memory then doesn’t become long-term memory. So basically, multitasking doesn’t work because you won’t remember shit. And that’s kinda important, don’t you think?
8) RESPECT YOURSELF
Treat yourself the way you treat those you care about. Give yourself attention, learn to know yourself and what you need the way your best friend knows you. It’s perfectly fine to put yourself first.
Making sure that you’re okay, isn’t selfish, it’s smart and awesome and an act filled with love. If you need to break loose and have fun, go out. If you need a break, stay in, order Chinese food, and read or paint or whatever you like to do on your free time.
But, if you feel like you need to do something for you, don’t hesitate to do so.
9) NOT BEING PRODUCTIVE ENOUGH
While binge-watching Daredevil, or spending time on your social media accounts are fun and entertaining, after a while, you may feel a little…unproductive. Like maybe you should’ve done something better with your day. Maybe some homework, booking a gig for your band, or finally getting started on that website of yours. I know I feel like that more times than I’d like to admit.
But, it’s okay I’m learning. I’m not just continuing to sit there, wishing and regretting instead of doing. Why? Because you can’t break bad habits by simply waiting. You take action.
Do something with your life that’ll make you feel good. Something that’ll bring no feelings of regret, whatever it may be.
10) DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS
This is lethal. Tearing yourself apart, to find every flaw within you and out because you can’t find something someone else has that you just love and apparently you’re not worthy enough without it; you don’t matter as much as they do.
Well, let me tell you now: that’s bullshit. You’re so goddamn amazing being you and looking the way you do, I can’t even begin to explain. I mean, isn’t so amazing that you’re the only you that will ever be. No one is ever going to be like you. You’re literally one in…infinity.
“Why are you trying so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out?” – Ian Wallace
Knowing that, why would you compare yourself to someone else and try to be like them, when you’re already someone out of this world? You’re not going to be exactly like anyone else ever, so just be the coolest person ever. You.