There are an abundant amount of things that you think and tell yourself. Mean and terrible things that you strongly believe to be true. Let me tell you now, though, that they are most definitely not. All the discouraging thoughts you have are so far from the truth you can’t even see specks of it. You’re not the negative things that you tell yourself. You are so much more.
In order to get rid of these deceiving lies:
- First, identify them (not to make you feel bad but to know what it is you have to let go of)
- Second, write them down
- Third, counter it – What do you need to hear?
- Lastly, repeat it every day until you believe it
1st: “I’m a failure” and write it down.
2nd: Don’t it turn into “I am not a failure!!!” Say, “I am successful.” Your mind will focus on what you tell yourself. (Telling yourself you’re not a failure still focuses on”failure”)
3rd: Say it all the time and envision how much better you’d feel if you truly meant it. It’ll make you want it more!
A few lies that you’ve probably thought before and why you should let them disappear:
1. “YOU ARE WEAK.”
You’re so incredibly strong, it’s not even funny. You’re capable of an infinite amount of things; it’s so much that your mind can’t even comprehend it.
It’s an overload so your mind decides to tell you that you’re not strong enough to handle any of it. But, you are. You’re insanely powerful and you can defeat anything that comes your way.
Think back to all the problems you’ve had and the people who hurt you. Done?Now think about where you are now. Here, right? Still around? Reading this? You’re a fucking warrior. You’ve managed to defeat and conquer ALL the hard moments in your life. You made it this far. That is a huge deal!!
Affirmation: I will make it in great shape because I can get through any obstacle I encounter. I have so far and I’m proud of myself.
2. “YOU’RE NOT ENOUGH.”/ “YOU’RE NOT WORTH IT.”
You’re more than enough. To the point where you break the “worth” scale. You mean something. Get it through your brain, please! I understand that it may not seem like it, but you’re not just here because you’re supposed to float around Earth wondering what the fuck you’re supposed to be doing. Even if you don’t know your purpose right now, just focus on the fact that you do have one.
“Do not tolerate disrespect, not even from yourself.” – No freaking idea, but it’s great
It literally pains me to know that there are people out there who really believe that they’re not good enough. I wish you could hear my tone when I say that. I mean it. What are you measuring up to? The pretty girl next door? The guy at the gym with the muscles? Believe that you, the way you are, are enough. Don’t try to change yourself to impress someone or be like somebody else. You’re amazing, I promise.
Affirmation: I matter and I’m more than enough. I’m valuable here on Earth.
3. “YOU DON’T DESERVE HAPPINESS.”
If I could, I would show up on your doorstep every morning and yell “YOU DESERVE HAPPINESS!!” in your face. Like I said in my first point you’ve made it this far even though you’ve encountered a lot of shit, right? If you did that, then you really deserve to be happy. After everything, you deserve to smile and laugh every single day for the rest of your life.
Even if you’ve made mistakes, said some things you regret, or did stuff you shouldn’t have done, you should be happy. Don’t let errors and regret prevent you from letting joy in.
If I, a stranger, know that you should be happy then, so should you. Let go of that lie and embrace all the love and happiness that comes your way. Don’t fear it because you feel comfortable where you are now. I promise contentment is a fucking wonderful feeling.
Affirmation: I deserve so much happiness. So much that it pours out of me to share with others.
4. “YOU’RE TOO STUPID.”
“Bright” should be your middle name, dude. You’re so intelligent and you can do so many things. You can reach your goals with hard work and dedication. So, what if you don’t have a college education (yet)? You can do it, I know you can. Doesn’t matter if you’re 16 or 24, I believe in you.
You’re not even close to being dumb or too stupid to take control of your life. You’re smart because you’re here reading this and learning to believe in yourself and gaining confidence. I’m proud of you for that because the sad reality is that most people are too afraid to do that.
You’re here because you understand that despite how frightening it may be, it’s also the smartest and it will bring you emotional freedom.
Affirmation: I am beyond smart and I will succeed in my life because I will work hard to reach my goals.
5. “I DON’T KNOW HOW TO DO THAT.”
Yes, that’s probably true. Maybe you don’t know how to be independent, confident, start your own business, et cetera. Are you really going to let “not knowing” hold you back? Figure it out. Read books (I’m not being paid for recommending that book) and articles, talk to people, practice and pretend to be the most confident person on earth until you are.
You don’t begin anything knowing how to do something. You learn, make mistakes, and learn some more. Just gotta have confidence in yourself and not give up when things get too difficult. I have faith in you. You’ll figure out. Just go for it.
Affirmation: I can learn and do anything as long as I put my mind to it.
6. “YOU’LL JUST END UP FAILING.”
I’ll start this one off with a cliché: you will never know unless you try. You can’t tell the future (unless you’re Raven Baxter obviously, but assuming you’re not). You will never know the outcome of anything you do. So that’s that.
Are you going to spend the rest of your life not trying new things and not doing what you really want because you don’t know how things will turn out?….Yeah didn’t think so *she answers her own rhetorical question.*
“In the end, we only regret that chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.” – Anonymous
Assuming you do fail. You’re not just gonna whine and cry. You’re going to look back at your actions, analyze the results, and learn from it. Take “failures” as learning experiences. Shit, don’t even take them as failures, just as lessons.
You’ll never know what’s going to happen. There’s no harm in trying. So, might as well, right? Don’t live your life in fear because you think you might fail. Learn to fall in love with losing.
Affirmation: I will always try because I believe in myself. Even if I don’t make it, it’s a lesson learned. I choose love to guide my way.
7. “FUCK IT.”
This phrase is a good phrase…sometimes. When you decide, “screw it,” I’m going to start my own music school. That’s the good kind of “f it”. Using it constantly for irresponsible stuff…not so good. There should be no “who cares, I’m gonna eat only snacks and deserts today.” No, “no one gives a shit if I try these drugs.” Uhh, I promise you most people give a shit.
Basically, know when to have that “who cares?” attitude. When you decide to love yourself and chase your dreams and ignore all the assholes of the world, that’s the good kind of “fuck it”.
Affirmation: I choose to love and take care of myself and only make decisions that are good for me.
8. “YOUR OPINION DOESN’T MATTER.”
Remember earlier when I said you mattered? Well, so do your thoughts and opinions and comments and everything else. You have a voice. Don’t be so tentative about using it. Never let anyone drown it out. You scream over them if you have to. You deserve to be heard. Stop thinking that what you have to say has no meaning to anyone.
“Speak your mind even if your voice shakes.” – Maggie Kuhn
Don’t let people interrupt your comments because they just have to share theirs right away. (However, you shouldn’t interrupt people in the middle of their rants either because you think that yours is more significant. Both are equally important, but if one person is already speaking, they deserve to be heard too).
Affirmation: What I have to say matters and I will raise my voice when I need to.
Now that you’ve finished reading this post, I thought I’d put together a playlist with songs that tell you THE TRUTH! Here are some songs (different genres) that talk about overcoming, self-love, or happiness to make you feel good! Enjoy 🙂