Hey guys! My name’s Itxy, and today we’re talking about 7 things that One Day At a Time taught us.
First things first, this video is about the SECOND SEASON of One Day at a Time, so if you haven’t watched it, then don’t watch this.
But, make sure that you add this to your watch later, so that when you are done with the second season, then you can watch this!
This website is a self-empowerment channel, so even though I’d love to talk about the talks about feminism and immigration in One Day at a Time, these lessons are related to self-empowerment.
So that said, let’s start with the first lesson, which is to . . .
1. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF
So, for some reason, we’re sometimes too afraid to stand up for ourselves and defend ourselves, which is ridiculous because we don’t deserve a bunch of the shit that we get for doing nothing, like being latinx or part of the LGBT community.
In the first episode of season 2, Alex is told to go back to Mexico by some fake asshole character, right? And so, he reminds us to stand up for ourselves!
There’s a lot of cruelty in the world, and sometimes, that cruelty is aimed towards us. When that happens, you have to stand up for yourself because when you don’t, you’re telling others that it’s okay to walk all over you. Plus, you’re training your mind to believe that you’re not worthy of being defended.
So, don’t take anyone’s crap ever. Don’t punch them like Alex did, but he did teach us a good lesson about standing for ourselves. So, just make sure you do that!
2. DON’T JUDGE PEOPLE BASED ON THE ONE THING THAT YOU KNOW ABOUT THEM
In episode 8, Elena finally meets her father after a year of him leaving her at her quinceañera in the first season of One Day at a Time. When she’s standing up for herself she says:
“Just because I’m gay people will hate me without knowing anything else about me.”
So, obviously we know that—like she said, she knew it was part of the deal.
But, it’s such bullshit that at some point I’m going to meet someone in my own life who’s automatically going to decide that they don’t like me just because I’m a lesbian.
So, that’s why I wanted to share this lesson, too, because it’s also a part of self-empowerment and taking control of your life. It’s about allowing yourself to connect with others and learning from them to grow.
This doesn’t just apply to sexuality! It applies to gender, race, color, the clothes that someone wears.
We judge people left and right off of the first thing we see, and we don’t give others a chance because oh they’re mexican so they must be a criminal.
Live up to your highest self and treat the people that you meet with respect. Give them a chance, and be kind. Just be nice. You could be missing out on the love of your life just because their skin is darker than yours.
And this takes me to lesson 3 . . .
3. BE CAREFUL WITH WHAT YOU SAY
Obviously you’ve heard it before—“think before you speak.”
Words can hurt—it’s plain and simple—so make sure you’re using the right ones.
Lydia was hurt as a child when she was called a spic and it never left her. Why? Because words never leave us. Especially if they’re cruel.
So, encourage others, lift people up, and inspire them, don’t bring them down. It only makes you feel like shit, too
4. YOU NEVER KNOW UNLESS YOU TRY
Syd—the newest character of One Day at a Time—was a perfect example of this when they went up to Elena and asked to split a cookie.
There are always going to be things that terrify the crap out of us, and we can complain about how we’re going to fail and let fear stop us, or you can get up and offer whatever the hell you want a cookie.
It’s the only way to know things—by going out to figure things out, by asking questions, by trying new things—so you have no choice but to try.
And sure, some things may not turn out okay, but there’s always a lesson to be learned.
That’s what’s so good about failure and fucking up is that there’s always something you can take from it!
Elena took a chance and was, unknowingly to Dani, rejected, but next thing you know, she’s in a relationship with Syd.
5. DO WHAT’S BEST FOR YOU EVEN IF OTHERS DISAGREE
As we’ve seen in other episodes of One Day at a Time, Lydia doesn’t always agree with Penelope’s choices in both seasons, but obviously, the biggest fight this season was when Penelope broke up with Max because she didn’t want any more kids.
Lydia completely disagreed with her, but Penelope stuck to her decision. And that’s something we struggle to do.
We let the influence of other people influence us into making the decisions that we don’t really want.
The thing is someone will always disagree. Everyone can love the college you go to, but there will always be that one person who’s like, “Ehh, it’s okay, I guess.”
So, no matter what, even if the whole world is against you, you have to make the decisions that feel right to you, not the decisions that will satisfy society or even your parents.
Do the shit that makes you happy.
6. FIND PEOPLE WHO WILL SUPPORT YOU
Learn from toxic people, ditch them, then surround yourself with people who will bring you sopa de pollo, tell you to get some sleep, and try again tomorrow!
It’s something Schneider does. He found this Cuban family that he’s absolutely in love with, and he’s with them all the time because they make him feel good.
And that’s what we should be doing—surrounding ourselves with people who make us want to improve and want to become better in general.
Find people who will make you feel good and love you no matter what—the way that Syd loves Elena for not having any friends, and the the way Elena loves them back for not having any friends.
Or the way that everyone loves Dr. Berkatowitz even though he’s weird as fuck!
So, go out and find those people and love them and let yourself be loved back.
7. NEVER EVER EVER FEEL ASHAMED ABOUT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
In episode 9, Penelope got off of her medication and stopped going to group therapy because she was ashamed of telling Max that she took antidepressants.
I’m fortunate enough to not be struggling with depression or anxiety, but I do know that about 43 million Americans do.
That’s a lot of people, and that’s just Americans! And still, people feel alone when struggling with these illness because it’s a topic that no one talks about. It’s, like, a “wrong” thing to mention.
People are ashamed to admit that they have a mental illness or that they take medication for it, but One Day at a Time was like, screw that, we’re going to talk about it and we’re going to remind people that it’s okay to struggle with depression and anxiety, and take medication for it.
And it is okay!
Because you’re not broken. And I think that’s what people misunderstand. Just because you have depression or because you have to take medication, it doesn’t mean that you’re broken. Your brain just works differently!
So you need a little help to not be depressed—you’re so fucking brave for doing that! For telling your partner like Penelope, for seeing a therapist, for taking medicine to help you feel better.
You’re taking control of your life, you’re taking initiative—why should that be embarrassing?
That’s inspiring. You are inspiring.
So, please, don’t feel ashamed. You’re the best of us, you’re fighters, and you’re fucking tough.
Just remember that you are not alone.
You have a whole show to depend on whenever you do feel alone. A show that reminds you that there are other queer latinas, and non-binary people, and others that struggle with depression. It’s not wrong to depend on a show to help remind you of that.
Even when you do feel alone, you’re never alone.
And that’s the end of this! Let me know what you thought in the comments below 🙂