“No matter where you are or where you grow up, you always go through the same awkward moments of being a teenager and growing up and trying to figure out who you are.” – Aimee Teegarden
Have you ever felt like you were sure you wanted to do this one thing for the rest of your life, but down the road, you thought you know what, maybe this isn’t for me.
Next thing you know, you go into this whole thought process of how you’ve wasted time on that thing and you can’t back out now. You begin to feel stressed and confused.
That happened to me the other day. I was thinking of what to write for my next blog post when I realized that I really didn’t want to write anything. In fact, I hadn’t been feeling like writing anything the whole month.
Then, because as humans we overthink, I started thinking about how maybe this isn’t what I was supposed to be doing. Maybe I’m not as passionate about this as I thought I was. I started thinking about how much I love music and how I somehow wanted it in my life.
That led to me thinking how the fuck am I going to make a living through music? I love singing, but it’s not my ultimate passion. I love playing instruments, but I don’t want to perform in front of huge crowds (not because I’m afraid, but because it doesn’t interest me). I began to freak out a little and got stressed so, I went to sleep instead.
I didn’t even face it.
That night, I had a dream. However, before I get to my point, I have a question. Do you know who Gary Vaynerchuk is? If you don’t, watch any (or all) of these 3 videos really quick. Don’t worry, they’re short.
As you can see, Gary’s hardcore. He’s one of my greatest inspirations without a doubt.
So, back to the dream. I had a dream that Gary was giving me some advice about a bunch of stuff that I was going through. Basically, he gave me all of the information that I had already learned in his videos.
When I woke up, I started writing this right away because I had a lot of realizations from that dream.
REALIZATION #1: YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS HAS ALL THE ANSWERS
Last night I was freaking the fuck out because I had no idea what to do. I love writing and helping people, but I didn’t know if I had the patience to follow through with it until I made it and blah blah blah, bullshit, bullshit, bullshit.
But, then I wake up and remember the dream and I think “Wtf, I know exactly what to do.” I was desperately hoping that someone would pop into my room and tell me what I needed to do, but I have the freaking answers.
I’ve learned a lot, and I still have way more to learn, but I know enough right now to keep me going. I was having a meltdown when the answers were inside of me all along.
What I’m trying to say is that when you’re having a meltdown of your own, trust yourself. Look within to find answers. You may think that you have no idea what to do, but I bet you do. If your best friend were in the same situation as you, I’d bet you know exactly what to tell them.
Your subconscious has everything you’ve learned stored up in it so please learn to listen to it and trust it. Don’t worry, I’m going to be on this journey with you.
REALIZATION #2: WE’RE YOUNG AS SHIT
I’m 19. I may be a legal adult, but I’m still a teenager. Whether I want to be a life coach or a musician or a goddamn magician doesn’t matter for shit right now. I think that eventually, you do have to become aware of who you are because you can’t spend your whole life floating around.
Right now, you don’t need to have all of the answers.
I was freaking out because I didn’t know what I was going to do with my life or how and that’s crazy. I’m young. I think that as young adults, we need to just pick something and go with it. If that path changes later on, then that’s okay. You did it and that’s all that matters. Now you won’t have any regrets in the future, right?
REALIZATION #3: YOU DON’T NEED TO BE LIVING OUT YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE RIGHT NOW
Like I said in #2, we just have to pick something and go with it. I’m very passionate about writing, creating videos, and helping teens and young adults out, I am. I really do want to become a life coach. But, whether or not I’ll be doing this for the rest of my life, I have no clue whatsoever.
There’s this other guy, this other millionaire, named Pat Flynn. He’s an entrepreneur and a podcaster who created Smart Passive Income where he teaches proven strategies for running an online business and optimizing it for passive income. You don’t have to know what any of that means, I’m just giving you a background story.
Anyway, Pat Flynn built these 2 websites that sell something, I don’t know what if I’m being honest. What I do know is that what he sells has absolutely nothing to do with what he regularly does. He sells these trainings to food truckers, and he sells a security guard training.
Do you think he was passionate about those topics? Hell no! But, he said to himself “I think this is a good way to make a bit of extra money.”
And he did! Sometimes, you just have to do things because it’s good for you. You just need to trust that the universe has some sort of plan for you, and your job is to go along with it.
You don’t need to be living out your life’s purpose right now. I mean, if you are hey, that’s great! But, if you’re not there yet, you don’t need to feel guilty or feel like you’re being left behind. Which leads me to my 4th and final point…
REALIZATION #4: STOP LOOKING AT OTHER PEOPLE’S LIVES
Let me just point out to you that these are realizations. As in, I’m not really there yet. That’s why I said earlier that I’m going to be trying out this new journey with you. This one is something that I’ve been working on.
Stop feeling guilty and stop thinking that you’re being left behind because you keep hearing about these other teens and young adults who are millionaires or well on their way to becoming one. Stop feeling jealous of strangers or friends who are backpacking in Europe or at a bonfire while you’re at home working and trying to figure your life out.
Honestly, if you can, just avoid social media. That’s the reason I deleted my accounts a few years ago. I only got it back in case you wanted to interact with me on Twitter or something and because I wanted to reach as many people as possible. But, that still doesn’t mean that I don’t have trouble when I see a 16-year-old on the news talking about how he sold a pair of shoes for $20,000.
I am very happy for that guy, I genuinely am. But, in the back of my mind, I keep thinking, “This guy is 3 years younger than me and he’s already driving that nice ass car?”
But, I shouldn’t be doing that. He deserves it. He’s working his butt off. We were all meant to live different lives. Some people will be famous actresses at 19 and others at 36. Just because we aren’t where another person doesn’t mean we won’t be as long as we work our asses off too.