Hi guys, I’m Itxy, and today we’re talking about how to stand up for yourself, specifically when it comes to people attacking your career choice.
The reason I’m talking about this is because the holidays are coming up and you’re probably going to have conversations with family members that you’re not really look forward too.
These family members are going to bring up your carreer choice, which you know they don’t agree with.
Maybe they don’t support that you’re not in college or that you’re at Burklee School Of Music instead of Harvard which is where your parents went, and they’re going to attack you for those choices you made.
So, yeah. I’m just going to give you tips on how you can stand up to family members who attack your career choices like that.
TIP #1: REMEMBER WHY YOU’RE DOING WHAT YOU DO IN THE FIRST PLACE
You’re going to get pissed and annoyed, but when you have those reasons and your why’s, then it makes it easier to remember that all of this shit that they’re giving you is going to be worth it in the end because you’re doing what makes you happy!
TIP #2: BE READY FOR ANYTHING THAT SOMEONE THROWS AT YOU
When you answer them, make sure that you’re not attacking them.
Don’t answer in a rude or sarcastic way because that’s only going to lead to an argument.
So, I have a 3 ways for you to respond to someone:
1. Say, “Yeah, I get that”
Even if you don’t! Because it is still their opinion, even though you disagree with it. You just want to let them know that you’re not going to fight with them on it.
2. Avoid the word “but” —> instead say, “I understand. And I believe that…”
Once you say but, then they know you’re going to counter everything they said, and you’re trying to push your opinion toward them. So, say and instead of but.
3. Never say, “No.” or “You’re wrong.”
Again, it’s their opinion and maybe you could try seeing it from their point of view. You don’t have to agree, but remember that they just want the best for you, even if they’re showing it in a wrong way.
You don’t have to stand up for yourself by being a dick—don’t fight fire with fire.
You can defend yourself and your choices kindly and respectfully even though you just want to punch that person.
TIP #3: BE TRUTHFUL
Just straight up say, “Look, this is what I’m doing with my life because I love it and it makes me happy. You either support me or you don’t, but I really would love your support.”
I’m sure that’ll leave them speechless.
They might not understand still but at least they’ll think, Maybe I should take a step back and give this person the support that they want me to give them.
That’s the end of this video!
This video goes hand in hand with How to Deal With Family Members which will be up next Wednesday, and I’ll talk even more about standing up for yourself.
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Thanks for watching, bye!