Hey, guys! My name’s Itxy. Welcome to my channel.
In today’s video, I’m going to talk about comparing your success to others.
I’m going to assume that you’re a teenager or in your 20’s. We have a very bad habit of comparing ourselves to others, especially when it comes to the way we look or the music we listen to.
That’s all talked about a lot, including by me, but in this video specifically, I’m going to talk about comparing your success to other people’s success.
I’m 19. I’m constantly judging my success or lack thereof to other people’s success. The worst part is that I compare myself to people I don’t even know. And it’s not hard because I see people on social media—people my age—who have a shitload of subscribers or the money to travel.
Meanwhile, I’m over here at home, working random jobs, getting random amounts of money and working from my kitchen and I don’t feel successful even though where I’m at is fine.
Even though I’m working from my kitchen table and not in a cafe in Paris, where I’m at is the finest thing in the world.
Like, it’s completely normal!
But then I see those people on social media and even though I feel like I’m on my to success because I can see that they’re succeeding, then that’s when I feel like okay, maybe I’m not exactly where I’m supposed to be.
And that’s terrible! (To think.)
The good thing is that I catch myself when I start thinking these things when I see a picture on Instagram of someone in Europe or whatever, which is exactly what you should be doing too.
For example, if I see someone and I feel jealous, then I’ll say “Itxy, different things happen to different people at different times.”
Or I’ll say, “I’m happy that they are where they’re at. They probably really deserve it, and I can’t wait to get there too.”
That way I’m replacing the jealousy and instead I’m proud of them because they probably do deserve to be where they’re at right now.
So, I just replace that jealousy.
How many times have you done that? How many times have you compared your success to someone else’s?
Maybe you’re in college in your dorm room watching this thinking about the 20-year-old Youtuber her spent her summer in California while you’re at home reading books and you don’t want to be doing that.
Maybe you’re a teen entrepreneur who has a blog that only gets 30 visits a month, and your eyes are on the famous fashion blogger who’s your age and you just can’t help but compare yourself to her.
So, if you’re in that position, the reason I’m making this video is that I want to help you get out of it.
And the second reason I’m making this video is that of another video I saw called Close Your Eyes Until You’re 29 by Gary Vaynerchuk
I wanted to bring more awareness to it, to you, because I think that we’re putting a lot of unnecessary pressure on ourselves to be successful already when in reality there are 2 things that we should be focusing on right now.
1. Working hard
2. Being patient
Things will happen when they happen, but we can’t put in one year of work and expect to become millionaires in that time.
Things, especially big things, take time. You don’t just get it done right away.
That’s not to say you can’t succeed in 3 months, that you can’t make $300,000 in three months by selling a course, but that can’t be your expectation all the time.
You have to know that even though it’s possible, that it can’t be your focus point. You have to realize that things do take time.
So, in the meantime work hard and be patient!
Yes, there are people younger than you and your age that is more “successful” than you, but so what?
You’ll get to where you want to be eventually as long as you keep going.
But going back to what Gary Vee says in his video “Close your eyes until you’re 29,” what he’s saying is stop looking at where other people are at, and stop comparing they’re success to yours because most likely, you’re going to end up being disappointed. It’s just going to discourage you, and it’s going to make you feel bad.
Also, don’t look at yourself. Don’t look at where you’re at.
Don’t think that you’re a failure because your business isn’t as big as you thought it would be yet.
I know that in our 20’s we’re considered adults and we are, but we’re still young as shit, and we’ve got so much time!
And what you have to do is just keep your head down, work hard, and be patient.
Stop thinking that you’re a failure at such a young age because you’ve got your whole
goddamn life ahead of you. You’ve got the whole world in front of you and so many opportunities.
You have plenty of time to succeed.
Don’t truly evaluate where you’re at until you’re 29-30.
That doesn’t mean completely neglect to observe yourself. I know that I sound like I’m contradicting myself, but let me explain.
What I mean is, if you realize that you’re not working hard enough, but you’d like to be, pinpoint that, and say I’m going to work an extra hour. That’s the type of observing I mean. Like, anything that can help you improve.
What I don’t mean is observe others and where you’re at, and then put yourself down. I mean say, “How can I improve?”
On the flipside, if you can look at others and feel motivated, then that’s that’s great! But don’t spend an hour scrolling on Instagram or Twitter finding people to motivate you because that’s just going to be a waste of time—might as well work!
Don’t look at where you are on a scale right now. All that matters is that you’re brave enough to be working towards your crazy dream while everyone else is hating their 9 to 5 jobs.
Keep your eyes closed.
Remember to stop evaluating every part of yourself so obsessively, and trust that you’ll get to
where you need to be.
Thanks for watching (or reading, you know what I mean)!