Hey guys. My name’s Itxy, and today we’re going to answer the question, “Do I need to have everything figured out?”
By the end of this video, you will have so much pressure off of your shoulders!
Let me know if this scenario sounds about right to you: You’re either in your late teens or 20’s, and you have no idea what the hell you’re doing. Or maybe you do know, but there’s so much that it’s overwhelming, and you don’t know where to start.
Don’t worry. You’re not alone. There are literally millions of other women who feel this way. And believe it or not, I feel this way, too. Just yesterday, I was questioning my whole existence (haha!).
But really, I do have my days where I doubt what I’m doing and what I chose as a career. The advice that I’m going to give you is the advice that I use for myself when I do have these days (because I know that I will continue to have them)!
So, this advice is exactly what I tell myself, and I hope it guides you through those days where you’re questioning if you should have everything figured out.
What I tell myself in order to get out of my head is remind myself that I’m only 20-years-old, and that I don’t need to have my life figured out—and neither do you, to answer your question.
But I know that a simple, “No, you don’t need to have your life figured out,” answer doesn’t satisfy you enough, so I’m going to give you the number 1 reason why it’s okay to not have your life figured out yet.
The number one reason is…
YOU ARE SO YOUNG
There is one huge advantage that we have that older people don’t. And that is that we have time. Lots of it.
This is what I’m always telling myself, that I have time, but let me go into it a little bit more.
Let’s say that you have just graduated from high school, and you have no idea what you want to do with your life. I‘m not surprised because society puts so much pressure on us! The second we graduate from high school, we’re supposed to have all the answers when in reality, there are 40-year-olds out there who are still confused as to what they want to do with their life.
So the fact that you don’t know yet is totally okay, because you are so young. You have no experience! This is what brings me to what you can do to start slowly figuring out your life.
No, you don’t need to have everything in life figured out, and you don’t need to have all of the answers, but I do want to guide you in the right direction in order to start putting things together, and finding out what you love.
The advice that I’m going to give you to figure things out is to…
TRY DIFFERENT THINGS…
You can’t expect to figure out what to do without actually going out and trying stuff. You can’t expect to figure shit out by only “thinking about it.”
I got “lucky” only because I figured out what I wanted to do with my life pretty early on. I figured out what I was passionate about and what I wanted to pursue, but I did try out things for a while.
I tried coding and building websites for a year when I was in high school. I was going to pursue it as a career, but then I changed my mind. I came to the conclusion that I didn’t love it that much.
I played violin for 2 years, but I only loved it enough for a hobby, not as something to pursue professionally.
I tried network marketing, flipping for a company called DS domination, and omore, but I didn’t like any of it. But through all of this, I became passionate about self-empowerment, which led me to become passionate about blogging, which led me to fall in love with writing. (And now I want to publish a best-selling novel someday.)
You see? I tried different things. I didn’t just stumble upon one someday, and it all worked out perfectly. I did a lot of things before I finally found this. But, just because I know what I want to do with my life, doesn’t mean I have everything figured out.
I still have to figure out how to edit better, how to promote, and so on. When I question these things, that’s when I start feeling guilty. That’s when I start thinking, Why don’t I have everything figured out yet?
But the thing is, I’ve only lived 20 years. I don’t have much experience in a lot of these. Especially because I’ve only been in this (barely) 2 years.
YOU STILL HAVE TIME
I still have so much to learn, so what I tell myself is dude, you have time! I can literally spend the next 6 months focusing on one single thing, and still have plenty of time to learn so many other things after that.
This is the advice that I tell myself that I hope you apply because—I’m going to keep repeating it—you’re so young, and you have time!
That’s basically what I’m saying, and you don’t need to put pressure on yourself because there’s no need!
Figuring life out is just a matter of getting to know yourself; of getting to know your likes and dislikes, and strengths and weaknesses, and focusing on those strengths.
It’s just really getting to know who you are. It’s allowing yourself to fuck up, and make mistakes, and stumble and fall every because that’s a part of the process. That’s something you can’t avoid.
So, stop bullying yourself. Try different things, know that sometimes life is harder than usual, and be strong enough to continue anyway.
You don’t need to have everything figured out, but you should try to figure things out. Don’t beat yourself up for not having your shit together. That’s the message.
And that’s also the end of this! If this article took the pressure off of you, leave a comment down below saying “I got this.