You know what’s really motivating? What gets me thinking, Man, I need to get my shit together?
In the movies, when someone decides to turn their life around, it looks like a lot of fun. You’ve got the montage on the screen as Eye of the Tiger plays in the background. You see the main character working out and gaining some muscle or reading a huge stack of books and minutes later they’ve read them all.
And even though we know that they didn’t actually read those books, we still think, Holy shit, I can’t believe she read all of those books!
Finally, the scene ends and the protagonist is on their way to the life of their dreams after working hard for a full 2 minutes! Then another hour passes by and they are living that life.
Not only that but by the end of the film now you’re going to do what the character did because hard work actually looks really attractive.
What happens next?
Well, you leave the theater with your friend, and you talk about how great (or terrible) the movie was, but in the back of your mind you’re still thinking about how motivating that montage was. You’re thinking that maybe you should start up that blog you’ve always wanted to start. You always enjoyed writing, so why the hell not?
The seeds have been planted, right?
So, you head to bed and dream about how great it would be to follow your dreams.
The next day, you get up all excited and shit for the first day of your new life. You shower, take off those eye boogers, grab a cup of coffee, and sit on your kitchen table with your laptop in front of you.
You decide that the first thing you’re going to do is research how to start a blog.
You open up Google and type in ‘How to start a blog’. You click on the article called “6 Steps to Starting Your Blog” because it only takes 6 steps? Sounds easy enough.
You take a sip of your coffee now that it can’t burn your tongue off and read the first line.
Step 1. Find something to blog about
Well, that’s not too hard, you think. You open up your notes to write down some things you know about after the author of the article suggests it. “Let’s see,” you whisper to yourself creepily. You stare at your blank screen for 2 minutes and come up with nothing.
You know a lot of stuff, but you’re not sure if you know enough about anything to call yourself an “expert.” You switch back to the article. I’ll just think about it later.
You vaguely wonder when the Universe will start playing Living on a Prayer or something else that’s awesome to go along with your research.
Okay, what’s next you ask yourself.
Step 2. Find a platform (I suggest WordPress)
Step 3. Pick and buy a domain
“Buy?” You ask to your buddy Air with wide eyes. “I have to spend money?”
You keep on reading.
Step 4. Design your blog
I don’t know how to do that, you think. Ehh, it’s fine. I’ll just look up how to work WordPress.
Once again, you open Google—this time to search ‘How to use wordpress’—and you find a free online course.
“7 hours?” You ask, this time to your laptop as if it’s alive and can hear your complaining. “Who has that kind of time?”
You shut your laptop and stretch. I’m getting a headache. I need a break, you think after ten minutes of research.
An hour later, you head to the library. On your way there, excitement bubbles up in your chest as you think more about following your dreams. You want to actually fall in love with life and help people. You want to take control and not let this spark of motivation be misused.
You arrive at the library, and you make your way in to sit at a desk after grabbing a shitload of books—6 to be exact.
During your hour break you decided that the topic you were going to talk about was personal development.
You know enough about the topic, and it’s something you’ve always been passionate about, but you want to do some more research on it before you write anything.
Another hour passes by, and you’re only 40 pages into You’re a Badass by Jen Sincero. You lean back against your chair with a sigh as you eye the rest of the books wearily. Why did I grab so many goddamn books?
You grab them to check them out. This is not how it happened in the movie. This is gonna take a lot more of everything than I thought it would, you think.
Chasing your dreams is one of the greatest things you’ll ever do. You get to learn about the things you love, and apply it, and eventually get paid for it. What’s not to love? But even still, it’s definitely not like in the montages in movies.
Here’s the reality of chasing your dreams.
(But first, this isn’t supposed to discourage you. I’m just telling you the truth!)
1. YOU’VE GOTTA WORK & LEARN
Chasing your dreams is going to require a lot of work. It’ll require all nighters and struggling to keep your eyes open to type (totally not doing that right now).
You have to work every day.
”I never took a day off in my twenties.” —Steve Jobs
You’re going to have to come up with attention grabbing tweets and facebook posts. You’re going to have to find different ways to earn money on the side so that you can pay for monthly subscriptions or online courses.
You’re going to have to learn a lot of things too.
You might have to learn how to run ads or edit videos. You might have to learn how to write better copy or suck up more information for you to teach by reading books if that’s what you want to do.
The good thing is that part of chasing your dreams is that they’re just that—what you’ve always imagined. So, you actually like when you’ve got to learn more about what you do and you like teaching it and all that good stuff.
But you doing what you’re good at isn’t the only thing you have to do. Which brings me to my next point…
2. YOU’LL HAVE TO DO THINGS YOU DON’T WANT TO DO
This part sucks, but if you really want to make it big in what you’re choosing to do, then you have no choice but to suck it up.
I love learning about ways to improve myself. I like helping others learn how to do it too. What I don’t like is learning how exaclty to do it—I just want to do it!
Sometimes you have to learn about things you could care less about becasue it’s necessary. You might have to learn how to run Facebook ads or how to conquer your social media even though you hate social media.
The thing to keep in mind is that everything that you’re doing, even the things you don’t like, are all going to lead you to your destination.
3. YOU’VE GOTTA WORK ON YOUR MINDSET
It’s not enough for me to just tell you that you have to work hard in order for you to actually work hard. The reality is that you won’t wake up one day with everlasting motivaton.
You have to work on that. You have to learn about how to make your subconscious work for you. You’ve gotta learn about discipline and habits. Your mindset is just as important as everything else.
Without working on your happiness, without taking care of yourself, or without picking up the habit of looking at your goals everyday, then how do you expect to make it?
You must work on this.
4. THINGS WILL TAKE TIME
Unfortunately, we can’t be dirt poor and then become CEO of a company in the span of 2 hours.
Things will take time. Sometimes, a lot of time. In the beginning, it won’t seem like anything is happening but there is always something happening.
You have to be super fucking patient and remember that you can’t become a millionaire in a week.
5. IT’LL BE REALLY HARD AND SCARY SOMETIMES
Holy crap are things going to be terrifying sometimes. I guess this goes along with doing things that you don’t want to do.
You’re going to have to step out of your comfort zone so many times if you want to succeed. You can’t succeed if you don’t—you just can’t.
“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” —Brian Tracy
You’ll have to submit a post to Entrepreneur even though there’s a huge possibility that they won’t get back to you.
If you’re a photographer, you’ll have to put yourself out there and offer to take people’s pictures even though you’re scared of fucking them up.
You’ll have to put yourself in front of a camera and make a YouTube video even though there’s a possibility that only one person will watch it.
If you’re not comfortable with “putting yourself out there” or you’re afraid of people judging you, frankly you just have to get over it. Do it.
Again, you have to remember WHY you’re doing everything in the first place.
What put you in such an uncomfortable position in the first place? Are you going to fight through the awkwardness you feel? Is it worth it? (HINT: yes, it is.)
Know that sometimes you’re going to want to give up. So bad.
But you can’t.
You really freaking can’t because whether you’re baking cakes, practicing to become a professional football player, or making self-help YouTube videos, people need you.
They may not know it yet, but once they see you they’ll know that you were the one they were waiting for.
Wanting to give up is normal and okay. But, don’t actually follow through because everything’s too hard or because things are taking too long.
You have to push through all of those limiting beliefs and pessimistic thoughts and stand up to them. Tell them to fuck off.
To end on a good note…
5. YOU’RE GOING TO BE A LOT HAPPIER THAN A LOT OF PEOPLE
I hope that I haven’t discouraged you to quit chasing your dreams. I was just telling you the reality.
I wanted you to know what to expect because if you went in thinking that you’d be walking on rainbow, then that would’ve only affected you negatively.
But another reality is that you’re going to be so happy! You’re going to enjoy life not only because you’ll be working on what you love, but because you’ll work on your mindset too.
Everything is going to be so worth it. People are going to look up to you. You’ll inspire friends and your small nieces and nephews.
You’re going to prove people wrong. You’re going to be able to show off your strength—humbly, of course.
You’re going to feel amazing about yourself. You’re going to be proud for waking up everyday and making the decision to keep going.
You’re going to fucking love your life.
You can make it. You know it. I know it.
Now go chase your dreams.