Hey guys! My name’s Itxy, and today we’re going to talk about why you should stop telling everyone what your goals are.
By the end of this video, you will feel like a weight has been lifted off of your shoulders.
We’re always telling people what our goals are. We’re telling friends, strangers, and family because we get the same questions asked all the time.
- “What are you going to do after high school?”
- “What are you going to do after college?”
- Or in my case, “Because you’re not going to college and you’ve already graduated high school, what are you going to do with your life?”
We’re going to tell everybody what’s going on because we want to prove to them that we’re not just wasting our lives.
We’re going to tell them:
- Where we’re going
- How we’re doing it
- How long it’s going to take
You need to stop doing this! I’ll explain why in a second.
First, I want to clarify this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t tell your closest friends and family what you’re doing with your life because they’re trustworthy. Obviously, you want to tell them!
Tell people who you know will support you and actually tell you to go and follow your dreams.
Don’t tell the people you’re not sure about how they’ll react to hearing your big goals and crazy dreams.
There are 2 reason that you shouldn’t be telling everyone your goals.
1. YOU MIGHT GET DISCOURAGING COMMENTS, AND THEY CAN BE HARD TO HANDLE SOMETIMES
You might tell someone what your big goals are, and they’re a small minded person who isn’t supportive of the traditional path (go to college, get a job, start a family, blah, blah, blah).
So, if you tell a person who believes in this very strongly, then you’ll get a bunch of negativity.
The thing is that, especially if you’re just getting started, that is the last thing you want. Why?
Negativity toward you —> decreased confidence in yourself —> decreased self-esteem —> now you’re caring about what people say about you —> you quit
Caring about what people are saying is the ultimate way to stop yourself from actually going after what you love.
2. IF YOU’RE GETTING A LOT OF NEGATIVE COMMENTS, THEN THIS IS GOING TO PUT A LOT OF PRESSURE ON YOUR SUCCEED
Now, you’re probably thinking, How is that a bad thing?
It’s not! It’s good to have people who don’t believe in you because it ignites a fire within you to actually succeed and prove them wrong.
The thing is, if you’re just getting started, then getting too much negative comments is going to have the opposite effect on you.
Instead of helping you and pushing you toward your goal, it’s going to make you want to take a step back.
The problem with having all of this pressure on you is that, yes it can be a good way to motivate yourself, but it can have a negative effect, too.
If there’s too much pressure on you, then when you’re not succeeding yet or you tried something and “failed,” then you think of yourself as a failure.
Plus, it might feel embarrassing, and now you may not want to continue because you don’t want to feel that embarrassment again.
Instead of letting it fuel you, it’s going to be harmful because it’s too much pressure.
If you have too much pressure on you, you don’t allow yourself the space to mess up and make mistakes.
So, share your goals with those you love and trust, but don’t go around telling the entire world!
I’m sure you’ve heard it over and over again:
Keep your head down, keep your mouth shut, and work.
That is how you will prove them wrong.
Comment “I will succeed,” down below if you agree! Thanks for reading. I’ll see you down below.